You’ll have to excuse my absence. Firstly, mainly cause I give you all no choice 😛 But secondly because it’s been a busy week. My birthday and my wedding anniversary – so I stuffed myself with cake, and generally spent my time enjoying my sons and definitely their father. I tell you so you know it was an anomaly, not a trend that will continue – I’m not getting worse than this and it’s not going to be consistent. I was so bad with reviewing I was more behind than I normally to my shame. Sometimes I wish I was a “That’s hot” reviewer. It’d make my life so much easier. I have been informed that if that happens, people will call the authorities, sure I have gone mad or been killed. 😀 The requisite True Blood rant will be up right after this, and I’ll be mentioning this is here too. It’s two posts for the price of one! A bargain in anyone’s mind…except me, because I have to write them.
So, Freyda has been occupying my free thoughts for the last couple of weeks, just sort of on a backburner there, but since I’m not making any headway on the situation, I figured I’d write this one out. Usually when I do this, my thoughts become less formless, and I come to an actual conclusion. So that’s how we’re going to do this thing. This won’t be all about how they get rid of Freyda – I’m not sure that the clues are in the text for that, and I’m not a lateral thinker, so I probably wouldn’t come to the same conclusion as Sookie. I’m a critical thinker – I delve into the meaning of what I’m given. Hence, this journal. 😀
Freyda is really an interesting idea to delve into in the books – and I think CH has picked it for the subtext of the situation. I think CH chose a marriage, another woman who could rule Eric was part of her point about things from the post-feminist perspective. She rightly points out here that if Bill was being bossed around by another man, instead of a woman, no one would think twice about it. So one of the things that I think is important as far as contextualising the books is how very differently things are seen when a man does them, to when a woman does them. Eric strong arming Sookie into marriage is for her own good and therefore good despite her protests, and Eric being strong armed into marriage is not for his own good, and therefore bad despite his protests. When the truth is that both marriages ostensibly protect both people from bad consequences from Felipe. Love or not love doesn’t make any difference – it is the shit the different genders catch for the same motivations and actions.
CH admits that there are big undercurrents in her books, and I think she deliberately chose a woman to have dominion over Eric, in the hopes that maybe some people would think about it. About why it’s okay for Sookie to get forced into marriage for her own protection, but not okay for Eric to get forced into marriage to make his life better. I also think an important part of the discussion is not to minimise and dismiss Freyda as invalid just because she behaved in a way we wouldn’t minimise and dismiss a man for doing. Eric was surely gaining an asset as much as Freyda would be. Yes, he loves Sookie now, but he certainly didn’t offer that up as the reason for their marriage, no matter how much he likes it now. Having a vagina doesn’t add any extra evil context to your actions…or it shouldn’t.
Nor am I going to degrade Freyda because of this subtext. If you think Freyda, unlike all the male rulers is motivated solely by love and peen, when every man is using political advantage (like Victor and Felipe) then now’s your time to step off. I kinda hate that Freyda’s had her political teeth taken from her in most fanfic. She’s ruthless enough to get a kingdom by 150 years old, she’s no piddling idiotic lightweight. She is not ruled by her heart or her vagina – she doesn’t even think love is a real thing vampires feel, I suspect because of this quote:
“But he does love me.”
“I am sure he thinks so.”
Deadlocked, p. 172
That tells me that Freyda thinks love is an illusion one must convince themselves they feel. That Eric doesn’t love Sookie really, he only thinks he loves Sookie because presumably, there hasn’t been a better offer on the table. So we’ll have none of the minimising and dismissing of Freyda based on ideas that she’s in luuuuurve with Eric, or she really needs a good screw. It’s insulting and incredibly sexist. Just look at this journal – no sex, no pictures of men to drool over – and yet women are discussing something that isn’t love and peen – a fuck of a lot of it is all about politics. And don’t give her some charming name in the comments like other women get – you know – Whorena (Lorena) or Whora (TB Nora) – unless you want a PMR to go nuclear.